Jul

How to Stop My Divorce

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When a couple is talking divorce, each of them need to sit back and honestly ask themselves if they are still I love with each other. If the response is yes, then there is hope and with some work, a stronger life together can begin anew. The most important step to “stop my divorce” has been taken.

Love is an incredible miracle.

First and most importantly, both of you should take time independently, and figure out what is wrong in your marriage and how you got to the point of talking about divorce.

Always Keep in mind, that you need two people to make a marriage work; it also takes two people to break it apart. Realize that you can be at fault too.

Once you both have determined what is wrong in your marriage and that you both desire to work out your problems, find a quiet, neutral location to discuss your individual issues in a non-confrontational manner. The two of you were once friends. Look at this meeting as if you were old friends who lost touch. Quite frankly, you are. You as friends can find a way to stop your divorce.

During the course of this talk, it would be easy to place blame your spouse for the wrongs in your marriage. Keep in mind that if you start pointing fingers and accusing, what do you believe your spouse will do in return? “Without good intent, you cannot draw a good result”. Have the courage to remain calm and collected or it will be impossible to find any common ground.

Remember to give your spouse the space they need during this discussion, and they will be more apt to give you the space that you need. Let them have the chance to voice their concerns, withoutyou interrupting them, and they will be more likely to afford you the same opportunity.

When you have finished your talk, the two of you need to be apart for a while to honestly think about what your spouse has told you. Put yourself in their shoes and try to see things as they have been seeing them. By doing this, you will better be able to understand how your spouse is feeling and this will help the two of you to understand where the source of your problem(s) originated.
“Just know that no one is perfect.”

When you both have had time to think about what the other said and how and why they feel the way they do, the hard work begins. Now that you understand what the problems were, you both can start to fix the situation and move forward. This process will not always be easy, but nothing in life worth having is easy. That the two of you sat down and quietly discussed your marriage and you are both wanting to make it work, is a major step in the right direction. The most important key is to be forgiving. For in forgiving, we are forgiven.

The only way to “stop your divorce”, and move on in a meaningful, loving relationship is to remember that love, and time can heal all wounds.

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