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> The philosophy behind the popular Busting program is that it's never too late to save a marriage. Busting offers a practical approach to saving a marriage. Marriage therapist and best-selling author Michele Weiner Davis, M.S.W., developed a creative, successful approach for coaching couples who were having marital difficulties and contemplating divorce. She wrote her best seller, Busting, in 1992 and has been helping couples repair their marriages since then. Avoiding Unnecessary Divorce Dr. Weiner-Davis advises couples how to avoid unnecessary divorce. Her six books, her lectures, and her Busting Center, with offices in Colorado and Illinois, help untold numbers of couples stay together through difficult times. Thousands of visitors find help on her website every day. She lives the life she tells others to live: Dr. Weiner-Davis and her husband have been married for more than 30 years. The Truth About Divorce Dr. Weiner-Davis began her counseling career as many therapists do: helping patients who think they want a to adjust to the idea of being single and go forward with their divorces and their new single lives. However, the woman behind Busting discovered that virtually no one found the happiness they sought by getting a divorce. She discovered that getting a nearly always created more problems for her patients than it solved. Instead of helping clients find the path to divorce, she set about trying to help them divorce-proof their marriages. The Sex-Starved Marriage Dr. Weiner-Davis has written a self-help book called The Sex-Starved Marriage: A Couple's Guide To Boosting Their Marital Libido.

Ever Wonder How the "Other Woman" Feels?
<p>Dear Cathy,</p> <p>I was truly offended by your article and description of the <a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/theothermanotherwoman/a/othemanotherwoman.htm">"Other Woman"</a> in a marital affair. The Other Woman, truth be told is a wonderful,loving lady. She is caught in a love triangle without knowing.</p>...<p><a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/b/2010/09/02/ever-wonder-how-the-other-woman-feels.htm">Read Full Post</a></p>
Should a Child be Allowed to Choose Which Parent to Live With After Divorce?
<div><p><strong>Question:</strong></p> <p>I have two children, my son is twelve and my daughter is six. My husband and I are divorcing and my son wants to live with his father. He told me that the reason he wants to live with his Dad is that he doesn't want him to be lonely.</p> <p>What is your opinion on allowing a child to live where they want after a divorce? Should I be concerned about him being separated from his sister? Am I wrong to think that my son not wanting his Dad to be lonely isn't a good reason for living with his Dad? Will separating him and his sister have a bad effect on them? Should we consult a therapist before making a final decision?</p></div>...<p><a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/b/2010/09/02/should-a-child-be-allowed-to-choose-which-parent-to-live-with-after-divorce.htm">Read Full Post</a></p>
Can My Wife Take The Children If She Leaves?
<div><strong>Question: </strong>Can My Wife Take The Children If She Leaves?</div> <div><p>My wife says she is leaving and taking our children. Can she legally take my children with her when she leaves?</p></div> <p><strong>Answer: </strong></p>...<p><a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/b/2010/09/01/can-my-wife-take-the-children-if-she-leaves.htm">Read Full Post</a></p>
Divorce Advice for Women
<p>From: <a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/divorceattorneys/a/ThydenGrossBio.htm">James J. Gross</a></p> <p>Once you decide you are going to get a divorce, there are eleven things you can do to get ready:</p> <ol> <li><strong>Start a War Chest:</strong> <p>You are going to need your own money for a divorce. You will have to be able to maintain yourself and your children for a while if you are dependent on your spouse and your spouse decides to cut off support.</p> <p>You will also probably need funds to hire a <a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/divorceadvicepolls/a/adviceforwomen.htm">lawyer</a>. If there is anyway to start a separate account to guard against future financial contingencies, now is the time to do it. If you have to borrow money from a relative or friend, be sure to sign a promissory note so the court will look at this as a loan that you have to repay and not as a gift.</p></li> <li><strong>Keep a Divorce Calendar:</strong> <p>If you are currently using a desk calendar or day planner, you will now need to include your divorce events. There will be meetings with your lawyer and court deadlines to keep track of. It may be helpful to keep...<a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/divorceadvicepolls/a/adviceforwomen.htm">post continued</a></p></li> </ol>
Divorce Advice for Men
<p>From: <a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/divorceattorneys/a/ThydenGrossBio.htm">James J. Gross</a></p> <p>There are a lot of important actions that men can take to protect themselves in a divorce. Below are eleven things for you to consider regarding specific financial matters:</p>...<p><a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/b/2010/08/30/divorce-advice-for-men.htm">Read Full Post</a></p>
Can Spending Too Much Time Together Lead to Divorce?
<p>My ex had no outside interest. His life revolved around family and work. If he wasn't at work, every time I turned around I bumped into him. I encouraged him to take up<a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://golf.about.com/od/beginners/a/faq_beginners.htm"> golf</a>, go our for drinks with his buddies...anything that would give him to opportunity to get away from work and <a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://stress.about.com/od/familystress/qt/family.htm">family stress</a>. We spent too much time together which in the end played a role in the demise of our marriage.</p>...<p><a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/b/2010/08/24/can-spending-too-much-time-together-lead-to-divorce.htm">Read Full Post</a></p>
Top 10 Causes of Marital Problems
<p>Below is a list of common sources of marital stress and conflict; consider how you are currently dealing with these issues, and how you could better deal with these issues:</p>...<p><a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/b/2010/08/23/top-10-causes-of-marital-problems.htm">Read Full Post</a></p>
Zsa Zsa Gabor: Nine Times Married, Eight Times Divorced
<p>To say that Zsa Zsa Gabor has experience with divorce is an understatement. She also had unique views (for her time) about how women should stand up for themselves in divorce and everyday life.</p>...<p><a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/b/2010/08/17/zsa-zsa-gabor-nine-times-married-eight-times-divorced.htm">Read Full Post</a></p>
New York Goes No-Fault
<p>Governor David Patterson signed a bill passing <a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/maritalproblems/i/nofault_fault.htm">no-fault divorce law</a> for the state of New York. The new bill will allow couples to divorce by mutual consent or unilaterally.</p> <p>Governor Paterson said in a statement. "These bills fix a broken process that produced extended and contentious litigation, poisoned feelings between the parties and harmed the interests of those persons -- too often women -- who did not have sufficient financial wherewithal to protect their legal rights. I commend the sponsors on providing a real and effective legislative solution to a problem that has for too long bedeviled ordinary New Yorkers."</p>...<p><a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/b/2010/08/16/new-york-goes-no-fault.htm">Read Full Post</a></p>
How to File For Divorce Without an Attorney
<p>To begin the <a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/od/yourlegalrights/a/pro_se.htm">Pro Se</a> or "do it yourself," divorce process a document called <a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/%20od/thedivorceprocess/ss/divorceprocess_2.htm">Original Petition for Divorce</a> is filed with your local <a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/%20od/thefamilycourtsystem/f/courtpersonnel.htm">court clerk</a> and legally begins the <a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/%20od/thedivorceprocess/ss/divorceprocess.htm">process of divorce</a>. In some states, this is referred to as a "Letter of Complaint." Both documents are requests that the court grant a divorce and list any relief the party filing for divorce feels they are due. The original petition or letter of complaint will identify the parties to the divorce and any children they may have.</p>...<p><a href="http://clk.about.com/?zi=1/1hc&#038;zu=http://divorcesupport.about.com/b/2010/08/12/how-to-file-for-divorce-without-an-attorney.htm">Read Full Post</a></p>

Complaints about low levels of sexual desire top the list of issues couples bring to marriage therapists, and Busting addresses this issue in Dr. Weiner-Davis's book. She recognizes the importance of addressing the sexual aspect of a marriage as part of the process of saving the marriage. She discusses how hormones, medication, illness, and fatigue can prevent couples from "just doing it." The Remedy This seven-step program for saving a marriage is the foundation of Busting. Dr. Weiner-Davis discusses the peril of relying on friends and family for marital advice. Seeing an unhappy person in pain, most loved ones will steer the unhappy husband or wife to the path of least resistance, divorce, instead of encouraging the individual to invest some time and energy into the marriage. Busting accurately points out that the couple is already bound for life if they have children, so they may as well try to work things out.

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